My role is to help you see ways of changing relationship patterns, to identify previously attempted solutions and to move through impasses. I am there to support your own discovery of new ways of doing things rather than tell you which routes to follow so that you feel empowered to apply your own solutions.
Systemic therapy is characterised by its collaborative, non blaming approach whilst working respectfully and effectively in ways that consider important relationships, past generations, and the different systems and contexts in which we live.
Relationship counselling or couples counselling can address issues that arise within your relationship and is helpful for any partnership experiencing difficulties whether you are living together or separated.
Many people have times when relating could be improved, and ups and downs are a normal part of any relationship. However issues can keep getting repeated, and stuck patterns can cause further problems. Being able to talk things through with someone can help move a relationship out of these patterns and behaviours, and reaffirm yourselves as working together towards a common goal. Relationship counselling can also support healthy separation and relationship endings especially if there are children to consider.
People may come for relationship counselling for the following reasons:
- There are issues of trust
- Issues of intimacy
- Affairs and betrayal have impacted on the relationship
- Communication needs improving
- Underlying issues keep recurring
- Bereavement and loss is impacting on the relationship
- One of you feels the relationship has come to the end
- Both of you want an ammicable end
Where do we start?
I suggest an initial consultation with either one or ideally both parties. This lasts 1hr and is charged at the hourly fee. Part of this session will include taking a family history of both partners.
What happens next?
I will work with you both, and on occasion separately, to help you understand the issues that might be impacting on your relationship.
How many sessions will we need?
This is something that will be discussed with both of you and will be ongoingly assessed. Sometimes as few as 5 or 6 sessions can be enough, and in other instances longer term arrangements are needed.
I am already having counselling, can I do both at the same time?
Yes, having relationship counselling and individual counselling at the same time can be very helpful. It is important to discuss this with your existing counsellor as well.